Behind every working woman, there is an enormous pile of responsibilities. After all, juggling work and family life is not a cakewalk by any means. It takes a brave spirit, kind heart, and a fierce mind to meet success on both fronts. Only a headstrong woman can achieve this feat without going nuts.
It’s an ongoing challenge that can get worse by the day. Even the hardcore among us can find it difficult to keep pace with the unremitting rinse and repeat demands of a juggling life. So, how do we manage home and career together without dropping the ball?
Don’t Make Guilt a Constant Companion
When you choose to combine career and motherhood, you are bound to make some compromises and sacrifices. There is no running around from this fact. Consider it to be part and parcel of the game. What’s really important over here is to steer away from the feeling of guilt.
If you find yourself wrestling with guilt, you will be doing yourself a disservice. So, don’t make yourself feel inadequate just because you had to make several compromises and sacrifices along the way.
Try to get to the root of the issue, and make the necessary changes by all means under reason. However, if the reason is based on people’s perception, simply forget it.
They don’t have your life, so don’t give anyone the right to make you feel guilty. By constantly reminding yourself that you are doing the best you can, don’t let guilt get to you.
Lower the Bar on Parenting
You don’t have to a perfect parent or a super mom. Being a good parent is a great feat by itself, considering the fact you are a beard earner in the house as well. So, don’t beat yourself up for not being the perfect parent of the millennium.
What other parents are able to provide is none of your business. So, don’t allow your clever kids to blackmail you with the feeling of inadequacy.
Refuse to take part in the blackmailing game. There’s no guilt in asking them to do things that they can actually do on their own, while you are handling other important responsibilities of life to keep the family wheels running smoothly.
Overall, be easy on yourself. Believe it or not, lowering the bar on parenting can take enormous pressure off your shoulders.
Leave Job Frustrations outside your Home
The trouble really starts here. Most working moms are unable to leave their work related issues at the office doors. Ideally, everything should be dumped right there to switch off from the ‘work mode.’ Here’s what can help over here.
Do not check your emails once you step out of the office. At best, you will only find more workload. So, avoid this practice. Also, turn off your phone notifications for work related calls. If you have to occasionally carry your work at home, work privately in a separate room.
Don’t Dump your Personal Plans
Between personal and professional goals, personal goals are often shown the exit doors. We keep postponing them to the point of no return. Whether it’s a holiday trip or a visit to the amusement park, putting off these unfulfilled wishes can backfire in a big way.
It can affect both your personal and professional life because of the fact that you were not able to keep up with these promises. The resulting outcome would be nothing more than undesirable stress, frustration, and disappointment. Therefore, pay personal goals their due respect.
It’s advisable to plan things well in advance so that you are able to cope up with your personal goals as well.
Have “Me Time” in your Life
Not having the ‘me time’ can wear you down. If you are unable to recharge yourself, you will surely suffer on all fronts. As much as you would like to be a super mom, the reality will get the better of you.
Not recharging your batteries will leave you with so much less energy that you will never be the best version of yourself. Think of the ‘me time’ as an investment made towards a better work-life relationship. It will surely pay off in the days to come.
Do something that you really like at least once in a day. It could be visiting a gym, reading a book before sleep or merely spending some alone time.
Learn to Say “No.”
This single letter word can save you from loads of trouble. Listen, everybody will not like you. So, if your negative response hurts someone, learn to take things lightly. Whether it’s your boss or a family member, don’t let them take advantage of you.
You should learn to respectively decline some requests because extra commitment can create nuisance in your already time-crunched life. Remember, when you say ‘yes’ to someone else, you are saying ‘no’ to yourself. So, don’t fall into the trap of saying ‘yes’ all the time.
Don’t Sweat for the Small Stuff
There will always be spills in the kitchen, toys all over the place, coworker making a useless comment, and other several other stuff to bother you. Do know that in the larger spectrum of life, these things do not have too much importance. So, don’t let the small stuff bother you.
They are not worth your time. Save your time and energy for the bigger and important things in life. Moreover, enjoy motherhood and womanhood by not paying any heed to all the small stuff in life. You will be surprised by the positive impact it can have on your mood and your overall well-being.
Somehow, life disagrees to meltdown. Growing kids can get demanding and corporate heads more merciless by the day. Today, employees are sacked unceremoniously in the name of downsizing. The survivors are expected to deliver more than ever before.
To top it all, a sick child, a bad meeting, or a broken washing machine can mess things up beyond imagination. For no fault of yours, things can get scattered with no silver-bullet solution at all.
So, keep these practical tips in mind to conquer these situations. We only get one chance at this precious life. Make the most of it!